Cooking Up a Different Perspective on Gender Norms
As a generalization, I would say that moms do most of the cooking in the household. In fact, the statistics support this. Time Magazine reports that "Women Are Still Doing Most of the Housework". The article reports that on an average day 83% of women spent time doing household activities compared to 65% of men. These activities include cooking, housework, lawn care, financial and other household management.
Not in our household.
While I did see my mom in the kitchen every day as a kid, I was rarely in there with her. Cooking is just not something I enjoy doing. My mom always said, "If you can read, you can cook." I certainly don't doubt her, but what her quip doesn't say is, "If you can read, you will love cooking." Thus, you have me. I can read, but I just don't enjoy cooking... at all.
That's why in our household I can generally cook up some eggs, pancakes, cereal, and oatmeal for breakfast. Heck, I can even make some peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and grilled cheese for lunch! Dinner on the other hand, that meals belongs almost exclusively to Master Chef Jerry. I love his cooking so much he even has his own hashtag (#masterchefjerry) which he doesn't care for, but I don't care.
My son, Gardner, has clearly taken notice of the fact that his daddy basically does all the cooking in the house. He noticed so much that one Saturday morning I was making him eggs and he was pushing me away from the stove. "What is it Gardner?" I asked him.
“Mom mom, no. Daddy cook.”
Touché little man, touché.
Although Jerry is the chef in our house, our initial intention was not to break the gender norms. But now that we are, I am embracing the fact that our son sees his daddy cooking and enjoying it.